I was in a situation very recently where I almost let the haters get to me. I hate that word, haters. There has to be another way to say it. Basically this world is full of people who you don’t think want to see you succeed. No matter what you do someone is always going to find fault in it.
You know what?
The great thing about this world is we do not all have the same likes and dislikes. Our values vary from one end of the spectrum to another. In their mind, they probably don’t even think of themselves as your hater. They just disagree.
Again, that is their right.
Regardless of how their opinion makes your feel you cannot change it or tell them they are wrong. Their opinion is stemmed from their perception. If you honestly feel like you need to change that opinion you need to change the perception. I am not here to tell you how to do that.
I’m here to tell you that this is going to happen. People are going to stare, they are going to whisper when they think you can’t hear them. (Even when you are standing literally an inch from their back.) People talk. They may even talk right to you and tell you how they don’t agree.
Let me. Smile. Thank them for their input. Then walk away.
If you were being very honest with yourself at this moment you are going to ask yourself if maybe they are right. When you do this remember that everyone see’s things differently and it’s okay you don’t agree.
Then you are going to keep that chin up and keep moving forward. Do what you do. Don’t get discouraged. Whatever you do don’t let any single person, regardless of who they are, dim your shine.
Like I said, I experienced this myself very recently and for about thirty minute I let it eat away at me. I excitement dimmed. All of a sudden it didn’t seem so great. It was hard to hold a smile and if I was being honest it was hell holding back tears.
Knowing the feeling was wrong and irrational I did the one thing I knew would help me shake it off. I acknowledged it, (also telling my closest peeps so they could pump me back up), and I let it go.
What an amazing feeling it was to know that now that opinion didn’t matter to me anymore. It was an exhilarating feeling almost as good as the original excitement. Join me in this feeling next time you feel someone is trying to extinguish your fire.